How many times have we said those three words? Some people may actually mean it whereas others say it out of convenience. Yes, I know…it’s sad, but true. We either love wholeheartedly or half ass! The shit that pisses me off most is to hear someone say I love you, yet they cheat and their rebuttal when caught is, “Oh, it didn’t mean anything. It was just sex.”
Seriously? You have to think: What the F@*% man!! This is absolutely BS! People say this when love is based on convenience. Their “love” either offers a place to stay, money in their pocket, or my favorite…security of knowing they never have to be alone. Men and women both are guilty as charged of treating a partner this way.
Is it a flaw in our DNA or just pure selfishness? To hurt the one you love is not love, so why do we continue to do it or put up with this type of behavior one might inquire. Personally, it seems to be a barrage of, I’ll fuck you before I let you fuck me over. Why is this, because so many of us currently in a relationship or contemplating starting one, may have been abused emotionally or physically and the trust is just so hard to re-establish?
It’s no secret, once trust is broken, there is no easy way to regain what has been violated. Trust is a key component to a strong healthy stable relationship. However, there is hope for all of us. Love can reign, and we can learn to trust the love of another without thoughts of them being dishonest. If you allow time to serve its purpose, brokenness can be restored. Eventually, not only will you be able to say I love you, but you will actually mean it. Don’t be mistaken, partner faithfulness is earned it’s not a given. What you do has greater meaning than what you say. By using your actions instead of your words they will not only know, but feel loved by you!
Valentine’s Day is in a couple of weeks. It’s just a holiday so don’t let the commercial aspect overwhelm the day. If you truly are in love with the one you are with, then share yourself in a way that shows them without even saying a word. Valentine’s Day can be grandiose without emptying pockets, unless that’s how you roll 24/7. REGARDLESS, love can be sentimental without being overly dramatic.
Has someone told you “I love you” yet their actions show otherwise?
Dear238.com Tip: Love’s only cost is loyalty. One that many hope for, but few will ever experience.