Those three words have caused couples to stay together for decades and others the agony of heart aches. The power of saying I Love You can be as beautiful as an ocean sunrise/sunset or as peaceful as a starry night.
It takes a lot to say I Love You, but it takes two people to be on the same page. This emotion needs dual recipients. Have you ever said I love you, and those words were never reciprocated? I’m sure it hurt or left you wondering if they had the same feelings for you. Not hearing I love you can elicit all kinds of emotional insecurities. Even if they love you and do not say it often it leaves the other person questioning the relationship, like: What is it wrong, Do they still want me, Did something change, Are they seeing someone else? The list of insecurities could be endless.
This then leads to jumping to conclusions, possibly making irrational decisions that may be irreversible.
Just because someone does not say I love you out loud all the time does not mean they are not in love with you. We must take into account that not everyone grew up hearing those words. Maybe their love is expressed by their actions, for instance: Your partner may clean or cook for you, or shower you with gifts based on their budget, or they may spend the majority of their time with you. To understand the true meaning of love one must see both viewpoints and learn to accept how their partner shows love towards them. In a previous blog, I briefly touched on The 5 Languages of Love by Gary Chapman.
This is an excellent book and anyone struggling with this issue should consider reading this book. You’ll find out your and your partner’s love language; helping you communicate with each other better.
How do you express love? Comment below.
Dear238.com Quick Tip: Before coming to the conclusion that your lover does not love you back, ensure they are not showing you in a manner that you are unfamiliar with.