You meet the person of your dreams; you start dating, perhaps you move in together, and possibly you even get married. You’re happy, thinking everything is going along just fine then you start to feel some distance between the two of you. There are signs that your significant other might be cheating. They may be spending more time online, checking their phone more frequently than typically done. They may be “working late” more often than normal or “going out with friends” more. If you have ever been in a relationship where you have been cheated on, you will notice these little signs as they begin. You will sense the secretiveness in your partner’s actions as something more than their answer or “nothing’ when you ask what’s wrong? Your partner will not answer certain calls or texts when you are around. They may even get up and leave the room to talk or text. It eventually may lead to them accusing you of cheating to ease their own guilt. The person cheating may change their grooming habits (more frequent showers, unshaven vs. shaven, etc.) and their interest to other things such as music or physical fitness might change.
Don’t ignore your intuition when it comes to how you feel. Yes, you could be wrong, but you could also be right. Keep in mind, no one should be in control of another person’s life, so if they choose to cheat you must decide to either continue being a part of their lie by staying in an unfaithful relationship or to have none of it! Discuss your suspicions with your partner in order to find out the truth. It is likely the cheater won’t admit it, but give them an opportunity to be honest. A good idea, if choosing to stay in the relationship after experiencing infidelity, is to seek couple’s counseling. Never, retaliate by going out and having an affair “just to even the score.” That doesn’t solve anything, it only damages the relationship more plus the individual who was not a party to your current situation becomes a casualty of the situation.
Which role have you played most often; the cheater, the one being cheated on, or the third party?
Dear238 Quick Tip: Follow your intuition and whatever you decide, in the end; do what’s best for YOU.