Masturbation... Are You In or Out?
There are some of us who grew up believing masturbation is an evil thing bad boys and girls do to themselves. It causes all types of long-term problems such as not being able to have an orgasm without self-pleasuring or climaxing too quickly. For a long time, I always thought people with hair on the back of their hands/fingers were big time masturbators. That was just one of the many myths back in the day.
Is it easier to cum more than once if you’re controlling your own pleasure sensations? What or who do you visualize? Are you able to just go at a moment’s notice or do you have to set up the scene? A warm bubble bath by candle light inside an empty house, while relaxing music plays softly in the background and sipping on a glass of wine? Maybe, you just roll over in bed and let your fingers glide-slide over all the right places, finding areas that heighten your sensation. Feeling the slight ache that comes from blood rushing to those erogenous zones and trying to control the moment by prolonging the self-tease. Shower masturbators (SMs) are slippery when wet. Take Note: the amount of creative pleasure you can have in the shower is endless. From the firm water pressure nudging against your naked body based on shower head stream settings, ability to lather up while running fingers across, in between and around special areas leaving you with erotic sensations. The best part for SMs is a no fuss clean. Do you find it easier to masturbate then go out on a date? Could this be the answer to the guy or girl who prefers to be celibate?
Adult toys lend a helping hand when deep firm vibratory or non-vibratory penetration is desired. Every adult should have a “special drawer/bag” with some of their favorite things (and I’m not talking about Oprah’s favorite things) to help out or use when the mood strikes them. Cock rings, FleshLight (a handheld column), pinwheels, vibrators, nipple grippers, etc., Again, when the stigma about self-pleasuring is not a factor, masturbating can actually relieve a lot of stressors. Should you feel guilty before or after masturbating?
Obviously, masturbation will likely never be a topic around the water cooler at work or at family gatherings. “Hey what did you do last night Tammy?” I had dinner with the girls, came home, took a bath and masturbated while watching 50 Shades of Gray, then went to bed….how about you?” Yeah, see what I mean? There would likely be an increase in work-related sexual harassment reported to HR. Or mom/dad would turn a few shades of red if their son or daughter had this discussion over holiday dinner.
Basically, those who need to let go of their hang ups about self-pleasure that does not harm anyone and makes you feel really, really good; allow yourselves to relax and enjoy some “guilt free me time.” No one has to know. Unless you want to bring someone in on the fun. Do we not already have so many other things to be uptight about? Give yourself a break and learn how to explore yourself sexually. By knowing what you like and verbalizing that to your partner it may improve your sex life.
There are many reasons we masturbate. The most obvious is - it feels good! Oxytocin and dopamine are released when we orgasm, creating a euphoria. Maybe you have hit a dry spell in your relationship or dating life, and you masturbate to release sexual tension. Masturbating may relieve the built-up tension and prevent you from cheating. Masturbating relieves stress and I can’t think of a better way to de-stress. Men who ejaculate more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer per an Australian study http://www.europeanurology.com/article/S0302-2838(16)00377-8/abstract/ejaculation-frequency-and-risk-of-prostate-cancer-updated-results-with-an-additional-decade-of-follow-up. For the females out there, studies are showing masturbation helps prevent cervical infections and relieve urinary tract infections.
Remember, when having sex with a partner or sharing favorite toys be sure to take precautionary steps to lessen your risks of contracting STI/STD.
Do you think you can masturbate too much?
Dear238 Quick Tip: Set your environment and get ready for some “me” time.