Happy New Year, 2018 is here! Each year approximately 40 % of Americans make at least one New Year’s Resolution. Of course resolutions come in all types of idealistic packages, specifically constructed to fit a goal that we are at least determined to start. Does weight loss, getting in shape, cutting out or down on treats sound like your typical resolutions? Well, you are not alone because on top of the New Year’s resolution list; is weight loss, eating healthier, exercising more and smoking cessation. Have you vowed to make any dating resolutions this year? If not, maybe we should consider setting a few “goals” with the intention to stick to them longer than typical resolutions. I know, easier said than done; right? : )
· Resolutions 1
Try not to focus as much on physical appearance. Being more open-minded and willing to get to know someone on a deeper, not so superficial level, may unlock doors to lots of compatible daters. Yes, in an ideal world, we all want the person we find drop-dead gorgeous. The one with the smoking hot body and smart, funny personality who treat us like a loving king or queen. However, in reality, we may get a supped up Gremlin that treats us like a jester. This year’s resolution could be to open your dating market to a more “average” looking pool where you just might find that someone special with the smart, funny personality and who treats you wonderfully. What do you have to lose? If you’ve been trying this the same way year, after year, now’s the perfect time to try differently. This means, you…go out on that date with the person that you would typically have said no to.
· Resolution 2
End your current relationship that is just not working out. Maybe they are cheating, maybe it’s an abusive relationship, maybe you just don’t love the person, or maybe the relationship has just run its course. There are a multitude of reasons why relationships don’t last. One of my favorite John Hughes movies from the 80s is Some Kind of Wonderful and one of the most quoted lines from that movie is “I'd rather be with someone for the wrong reasons then alone for the right,” which was said by the character Amanda Jones. By the end of the movie, she changes her thought process and says, “I'd rather be right. It's gonna feel good to stand on my own.” Sometimes it’s scary to step out on our own after being in a relationship but if the relationship is not meant to be, we need to walk away and step out and start anew.
· Resolution 3
Dare to be a fearless dater. One that can accept rejection and understand that person was just not meant to be in your life. Say to yourself: I will put myself out into the dating scene more. Yes, dating can be hard, and you might be afraid of rejection. Truth be told, most of us are afraid that we won’t meet other’s standards. We all have feelings and can get our feelings hurt, but we have to put ourselves out there if we are going to find love. Here’s the take-home message…the person that’s right for you will not reject you. They will make you feel like you are the only one in the world for them while always treating you like the king or queen whom you are! So, stop making excuses about not having time. We can’t sit back and wait for someone to magically appear and it may happen; eventually. If you are looking for someone special, start right now and change your destiny. Be willing to invest the time and effort into finding a relationship and then take those same two key elements to keep the relationship. That hunger/passion you had when first meeting them should always drive you to keep them!
Did you make a dating-related resolution this year? Comment below.
Dear238 Quick Tip: There are various ways to meet someone in the 21st century. Go and find your special person. The two of you may have already passed one another many times in your dating quest.