We meet and interact with all types of people daily. Many we’ll never interact with again, others however, will be part of our lives for an extended period of time; be it work, doctor’s office, school, family (related or by marriage). It’s unfortunate that we allow ourselves to be constantly put in stressful situations only because we need certain things (i.e., employment, medical care, consumer purchasing, hair care; etc.) Are we gluttons for abuse? Or have we just resigned to accept this bad behavior?
There are times when situations like your job cannot be changed, so you have to push through peoples’ ugliness and mistreatment. Trust that when they are being hurtful, they know exactly what they are doing. They know how they’ve treated you, but they don’t care how it’s affecting you. Want to know why? It’s simply because some people take pleasure in causing other people pain. These individuals usually have problems and insecurities of their own and for them to feel better about themselves; they have to belittle others. I like to equate this to unclogging a sink. This toxic environment continues to build. You see it slowly bubbling as it tries to go down the drain, but there’s nothing to do except wait. Knowing that every time you turn on the water the same thing is going to happen until you either DIY or call on a professional to fix it. How do you do this? Every situation is different. Maybe you just need to walk away, and if you can’t, maybe you need to speak up.
I’m not saying any option is the best or right one, but I know if things remain the same; don’t expect change. If the toxic vibes are in a workplace you may just have to adjust because let’s face it, most of us need our job, hence the reason for working. There has to come a time when you stand up for yourself and this can be done in a non-abusive manner.
Where do you encounter your toxic person? Work- a co-worker or boss? Relationship? A friend? Family member?
Dear238 Quick Tip: Bullies can grow up to be your co-workers, supervisors, and “so-called friends.” Everyone has someone like this in their lives. The key is knowing how to remove them gracefully and tactfully.